HOW TO OVERCOME WEDDING JITTERS!

HOW TO OVERCOME WEDDING JITTERS!

The feeling of nervousness before starting your life with your partner is more common than you think, of course, it will be a new family a new life, and a new environment. But it’s ok, trust your gut, there is no need to carry the nervous energy, always remember it is going to be you and your partner in a healthy relationship so rest you can manage. We at WEDDING SUTRA are here to list out a few things you can try to avoid the wedding jitters. Try to differentiate between being stressed about wedding planning and being stressed about marriage. Worrying about small details doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t marry the person you love.

• FIGURE OUT IF ITS JUST THE PRE-WEDDING STRESS OR SOMETHING PARTICULAR ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP THAT IS BOTHERING YOU. PRE-WEDDING STRESS IS COMMON, THINKING ABOUT ALL THE ARRANGEMENTS AND ETC, BUT IF IT IS A PARTICULAR HABIT OF YOUR PARTNER THAT DISTRESSES YOU AND THEY ARE NOT WILLING TO WORK IT OUT, THEN YOU MUST TAKE SOME TIME OUT FOR YOURSELF AND THINK ABOUT IT ALL THROUGH, TRY HAVING A SERIOUS CONVERSATION WITH YOUR PARTNER ABOUT WHAT MAKES YOU UNCOMFORTABLE AND IF THEY ARE WILLING TO WORK ON IT.
• EXERCISE AND MAINTAIN A SELF-CARE ROUTINE, THE BEST WAY TO DEAL WITH ANXIETY IS TO GET YOUR WORKOUT ON, NOT ONLY DOES IT MAKE YOU FEEL PHYSICALLY HOT BUT ALSO MENTALLY A LOT OF STRESS CAN BE RELEASED AFTER WORKING OUT. ALSO, GET YOUR SELF-CARE IN CHECK, EAT PROPERLY AD REGULARLY, DO NOT SKIP ANY MEALS, AND GET PROPER 7 HOURS OF SLEEP EVERY NIGHT. NO ALL-NIGHTERS, ABSOLUTELY NOT.
• Forget what other people think You might also worry that the people around you will judge your decision. They will ask why you chose to marry that person. They will even question several details about the wedding. If you keep worrying about them, you will never feel satisfied. If you allow yourself to get bothered by these people, you are going to feel bad. Remember that even if you have the best wedding for the best possible person, these people will judge you. It does not help to continue worrying about what they will say.

·      Remember that it is not an end The reason why you probably feel that way is that you think that the wedding is the end. The truth is that the ceremony is the beginning of a lifetime together with your partner. Do not worry if you still have not figured out what you are going to do as a couple. It is okay to be uncertain since no couple entering their married life immediately knows what to do. If you think you do not yet fully understand your partner, it is okay. You have your entire life ahead to get to know each other.

• TALK TO A CLOSE FRIEND, TALKING CAN REALLY HELP, HAVING SOMEONE TO LISTEN TO YOU IS ALWAYS A BIG BLESSING IN ONE’S LIFE ESPECIALLY BEFORE YOUR BIG DAY IF YOU JUST HAVE SOMEONE TO LISTEN TO YOUR BLABBERINGS ABOUT HOW MUCH WEIGHT YOU LOST OR IF YOU SHOULD BE INVITING YOUR FRENEMIES TO THE WEDDING, ALWAYS HAVE A FRIEND TO TALK TO.
• DO NOT HOPE FOR PERFECTION, YOU AND YOUR PARTNER, AS A COUPLE IS PERFECT, THERE’S NO NEED TO STRESS OVER IF THE CEREMONY WILL GO PERFECT OR NOT. IT’S A DAY FOR YOU BOTH SO TRY TO ENJOY IT WITH YOUR PARTNER INSTEAD OF WORRYING IF ALL IS GOING RIGHT FOR THE GUESTS EVERY SINGLE MINUTE OF YOUR GRAND DAY.
• PAMPER YOURSELF A LITTLE, YOU DESERVE IT. ALL THE PLANNING, THE SHOPPING, THE SENDING INVITES MUST HAVE TAKEN A TOLL ON YOU SO GIVE YOURSELF A DAY, TAKE A CLOSE FRIEND TO A MASSAGE, TREAT YOURSELF TO SOME GOOD FOOD, BUY SOMETHING YOU ALWAYS WANTED BUT NEVER BOUGHT BECAUSE IT WASN’T A NECESSITY.
• AVOID LAST-MINUTE RELATIONSHIP ADVICE. YOU PLANNED ON GETTING MARRIED ON YOUR OWN SO WHY DOES IT MATTER WHAT A DISTANT RELATIVE OF YOURS HAS TO SAY THAT TOO AT THE VERY LAST MINUTE? YOU TRUST YOUR PARTNER, THAT’S ALL YOU NEED TO MAKE IT TOGETHER TILL THE END, TRUST, UNDERSTANDING, AND LOVE. LET OTHERS BE IMPORTANT FOR YOUR  GUEST LIST OR ELSE IT WILL GIVE RISE TO ALL SORTS OF “WHAT IFS” AND “MAYBE” TRUST ME, THAT IS THE LAST THING YOU WANT.
• TRY TO START A JOURNAL. AS WE ALL KNOW JOURNALLING CAN HELP YOU FIGURE OUT YOUR FEELINGS SO WHATEVER YOU FEEL EVERY DAY PEN IT DOWN IN A DIARY. IT WILL ALSO HELP YOU REALISE WHAT IT EXACTLY IS THAT IS MAKING YOU NERVOUS. JOURNALLING IS A GREAT WAY OF SELF-THERAPY AND SELF-CARE. ALWAYS TRUST THE PROCESS AND KEEP WALKING.
• EVERY WEEK GIVE YOURSELF A NIGHT OFF. THAT NIGHT DO NOT DISCUSS ANYTHING ABOUT THE WEDDING AT ALL. WATCH YOUR FAVOURITE SHOW, READ A BOOK OR JUST SLEEP. AVOID ANY MARRIAGE-RELATED TALKS OR PLANNING ON THAT ONE PARTICULAR NIGHT. IT WOULD NOT ONLY HELP YOU GET SOME SPACE BUT THE NEXT DAY YOU WILL BE VERY ENERGETIC TO PREPARE AND DO YOUR BEST FOR THE WEDDING.

With this we now come to an end of this list, do not let these jitters question your relationship! It is a very common thing but in response do not try something drastic that might jeopardize the relationship, treat these jitters as another part of the wedding and just go with them.

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